[0:29] What is an evolutionary relationship?
[3:41] The primary question to ask in relationship therapy
[4:29] Finding the 'deathbed consciousness' in relationship
[7:01] Finding 'time for now'
[9:29] The close tie between spirituality and trauma
[10:53] The essence of all trauma work
[15:03] The unavoidable issue of 'mutual triggering'
[16:44] Potential-oriented living: how to stay interested in each others' growth
[19:06] Maintaining relational integrity
[21:04] The real work of longing for the divine
[21:56] How to notice when you're in love with your partner's potential
[23:44] How to discern the 'red line' between a growth relationship and one that's failing